TO BE A MOTHER. The most natural thing in the world?

Sono Nura Sleiman, sono nata in Germania, ho 33 anni. Sono sposata con un cremasco, ho un figlio di 18 mesi, sono venuta in Italia per mio marito. Ho trovato un lavoro come Customer Service madrelingua tedesca; sono laureata in storia dell'arte, ho studiato a Bamberg, Parigi e Berlino... 

To get a child, to create a family, should be natural. It is what we are made for. But instead it is getting more and more difficult. A lot of young couples decide to stay without children because of many reasons. Independency is in my opinion the most important reason against children. A big part of our generation – I am 33 – grew up with principles like wealth, autonomy, professional success and self-realisation. And women too! 50 years ago that was not a problem then the role for a woman was clear, today it is not anymore. Still it is surely for a lot of women an inner impulse to have children but how to combine this with a reality that does not provide a way to combine it?

After 18 month at home raising my child I go back to work. I am happy and not happy. To leave my child the hole day with other people – nursery and grandparents – leaves me a bit sad. At the same time I know it is good for any child to stay with other people and children and not all the time just with their mother. But why it is so difficult to find a compromise? Why can our society not arrange that mothers with little children have the possibility to work if they want part-time? Is the family at the end of the day not the most important thing that we have? It is our base. For wealth, autonomy, professional success and perhaps not always self-realisation ;). But for this it needs to be balanced in all parts...